I always want to win. I fight the urge to win all the time, even at the sacrifice of relationships. It's a huge flaw in my personality that I'm constantly working on. My husband, unfortunately gets the brunt of this flaw.Rather than continue the argument, Jarrod sat down and said he wanted to pray. While we pray together twice each evening, once with our son and once just the two of us, we have not used prayer in the midst of an argument. While it made sense and is something I’d suggest other people do, it felt somewhat foreign to me. I agreed because I knew it was what we needed to do. We prayed for our marriage, for peace, and for each other. We centered ourselves around the one thing that makes sense in our lives - our Creator.
Don’t judge, so that you won’t be judged. You’ll receive the same judgment you give. Whatever you deal out will be dealt out to you. Why do you see the splinter that’s in your brother’s or sister’s eye, but don’t notice the log in your own eye? How can you say to your brother or sister, ‘Let me take the splinter out of your eye,’ when there’s a log in your eye? You deceive yourself! First take the log out of your eye, and then you’ll see clearly to take the splinter out of your brother’s or sister’s eye. - Matthew 7:1-5 CEBHe prayed and I sobbed. I was immediately aware of the bigger picture in our marriage. God brought comfort and reminded me of why I’m married to Jarrod. I was also overwhelmed with my own shortcomings. In the midst of an argument, I was unable to see my own sin because I was focused so much on Jarrod’s. Praying reminded me how incredibly blessed I am and how I should probably focus on my own sin before trying to fix Jarrod's.