First, let me say that I'm thankful that I have a fairly concise response to this incredibly awkward question. I am mindful that many do not have an easy answer. Occasionally the question is asked in a loving way, but there are many times where it is covert, random, and uncomfortable. Let this serve as a reminder to be cautious when asking a family about their expansion plans!We have chosen to pursue adoption through the foster case system. We have chosen our agency and have almost completed the first step - the application. In this case, the application is less like signing up for a new e-mail address and more like applying for security clearance. I adore applications and love check-lists, so the process is only slightly daunting. Over the holiday break I gathered documents like my high school diploma, car insurance, rental insurance, and medical records. I also prepared essays, found recommendations, and created a floor plan for our house.
The next steps in our application include taking the animals to have their shots updated, getting our fingerprints taken, and completing the essays. We hope to have these things checked off the list and the entire application turned in later this month. From there, we will likely have a few loose ends to tend to before beginning the training and home study.
We do not have a timetable or real concept of what this will look like. We have ideas and preferences, but are relying on God's guidance as we enter this process. At this point, our preference is to foster to adopt 1 or 2 children, potentially a sibling group. We are open to children 4 and under, and would like at least one child younger than Wesley, preferably a baby.
When will Wesley have a brother or a sister? We're not sure, but hopefully before the end of the year! He and/or she will likely not look like is, which is fine because we already have one that looks just like us! Wesley might suddenly become a middle child. It's not traditional and it will likely be messy. But we are excited about expanding our family and the opportunity to share love and grace with children in our community.