Wednesday, February 19, 2014

It's not all sunshine and roses...

Being a parent is tough. One thing I pride myself on is telling new parents or pregnant women how tough it actually is. Just last week I told a young, unmarried, 20-something woman without children the tough stuff of labor, delivery, and breastfeeding. Yes, that happened.

I also try to balance the tough stuff with the beautiful moments. I'm careful not to complain about my life too much, share only the cutest pictures on facebook, and make sure that I'm portraying my family in the best light possible. I've been accused of having a "perfect" life. I'm not sure what perfect means, but I'm pretty sure nothing in my life is perfect. It's a tough balance - not perfect, but a little prettier than real life.

This morning I read Amanda's post and both nodded in agreement and felt the sting of guilt all at the same time. Pregnant with a baby boy after heart ache, infertility, and miscarriage, Amanda knows this baby is an incredible blessing from God. And yet, she's hearing the tough stuff without the beauty. I was convicted. I've been a mama for just over 2 years and the moment Wesley was born, my life was completely changed. It's been painful, difficult, challenging, and tough in ways I couldn't have imagined, but it has also made my heart and life explode with love. A love that I didn't know existed inside of me was unleashed the day Wesley was born.

Today, in honor of Amanda and all the soon-to-be mamas and daddys out there, I want to share the sweetest moments of the past 25 months and 8 days.

  • The last Sunday before I had Wesley I was 40+ weeks and uncomfortable. And yet I wept during worship, praying over my huge belly knowing that soon our baby would be with us for real. I cried in Target that day picking out a girl's outfit, just in case. 
  • After a seriously intense labor, the moment Wesley was placed on my chest, I knew what love was all about. In the middle of the night after Wesley was born, the nurse came in and woke me up, telling me to wake Wesley up and feed him. He didn't want to be awake, so Jarrod and I just spent a few quiet moments staring at him. We would have done anything at all for that tiny baby we just met. Life is over.
  • There were many nights where I fell asleep nursing Wesley in the middle of the night. I woke up panicked - what if something happened?! - but he was safely tucked in on my chest. All is right in the world.
  • I also woke up a few times those very early weeks to Wesley sleeping on Jarrod's chest. There is nothing like watching the tangible love between the man of my dreams and our baby.
  • As Wesley got older, I'd pick him up from daycare and he would kick his feet and grin. He knew I was his mama and he loved me! 
  • A few months ago Wesley started something new - when I pick him up to get him ready for bed or after his bath he will cling to me and pat my back, hugging me really tight. It is absolutely precious. 
It's not all sunshine and roses, but some days are really good. Monday was President's Day and I had the day off from work. Jarrod still had to work, so Wesley and I had a date day. Before Jarrod left I got a great walk in, Wesley and I got ready for the day, and I responded to some work issues. We left for his doctor's appointment - he got a shot and screamed, but was immediately okay once he was offered a sticker! We ran a few errands, singing in the car with the windows rolled down, before killing some time in Target. While we were looking at house stuff, Wesley grabbed my hand, rubbed it on his face, and giggled like crazy. It was adorable. 

After Target and a few more errands, we met Daddy for lunch. It was awesome to share lunch with Jarrod during a work-day! After lunch, Wesley and I went home, read one book, rocked, and he took a nap! That left me with a few hours to get work done. I responded to e-mails, put out some fires at work, and made a running belt

Before I knew it, Wesley had been asleep for 2.5 hours and was waking up! I packed a snack and took him for a walk. We went about 3 miles or so and got home just a few minutes before Jarrod! After some time together as a family at home, we got back outside and went to the park! It was awesome and beautiful outside. After the park, dinner, and bath, Wesley went to bed with only a tiny fight, which is a victory in our house! What a beautiful day! 

It was simple, and probably boring for some, but it was a beautiful day. 
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30 comments:

  1. What a precious account of your day. Motherhood is not easy. Focusing on the positives is a better road to take rather than dwelling on the negatives and not seeing the whole picture.

    Have another wonderful day. :)

    Blessings,
    Angie
    http://hopehomeschoolconsulting.com/blog/

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    1. Thanks so much, Angie! Ironically, a few days later he skipped his nap and had a lot of trouble listening, making for a very challenging day! :-) You take the bad with the good, but it always is worth it!

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  2. I agree. It sounds like a perfect day to me. Sometimes you can't hug and squeeze them enough, huh? You're making memories for both of you.

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    1. Thanks so much, Julie! I completely agree! Perfect days don't need to be flashy, expensive, or crazy. Perfection is in the simple things. :-)

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  3. Your post was so sweet! It's so true that parenting is a real challenge, but is also so beautiful. I loved my husband before we had our son, but watching him become a parent and grow as a father has brought us so much closer. I loved watching him cuddle our little newborn babe. The little guy looked so tiny in my husband's arms. I miss all of those cuddles. Kiddo is 18 months old now, and has way too much to explore to have time to cuddle us.

    I've also fallen asleep while nursing so many times!

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  4. Thanks so much, Yuliya! My little man doesn't cuddle much anymore either, so I take the moments whenever I can get it! And I miss the sleepy nursing sessions so much. But do love that I sleep through the night more often than not now that he's 2!

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  5. Beautiful! Children are a heritage from the Lord and a blessings - even through the difficult times!

    Kingdom Life & Blessings

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  6. Those are the kind of moments that make the rest of the times worthwhile! Thanks for the smile and bringing back some of my special moments with my baby (who's not such a baby anymore!).

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    1. Thanks for the comment, Emma! I have to remind myself of that all the time too! :-)

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  7. This is beautiful. It's so important to remember those little pieces because they are the precious bits that get lost if we're not careful. Thanks for sharing this. Your love for your son is palpable.

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    1. I really needed this word, Alanna! He just threw a tantrum and hit me. I need to remind myself all the time how much I love him and how special this time is!

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  8. I'm a mom to 6, with 5 still at home. Finding the balance btwn the joy and the challenge is a lifetime thing. The moments of joy can be overwhelming...as can the challenging times.

    And I wouldn't have it any other way.

    Found you via BYB

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    1. As we sit in the midst of attempting to foster-to-adopt and expand our family, I needed to hear this too! Sometimes it seems so overwhelming just with one kiddo! :-)

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  9. Beautiful. They grow up so fast. Enjoy every minute of it. :-)

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  10. Och...i remember those moments! ! That smell of a babe fresh from a bath, that smile that seems to shiver down their body when they see you. Having a child is one of life's best and worst moments. The trouble makes the joy more sweet and the joy makes the trouble worth fighting through.

    Beautiful!

    ~ Honey
    #BB100

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  11. Kiddo has started sleeping through the night fairly recently and I definitely agree that life is better when I only have to worry about my husband stealing all of the blankets.

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    1. Unfortunately (for my hubby!) I'm the blanket stealer in our house! :-)

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  12. I also tend to spend time on the 'real' of motherhood, but what a great reminder that there are great moments too! There are times of joy and laughter, sometimes AMID the trials and sorrows. Thanks! Stopping by from the 100 days challenge.

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    1. Thanks so much for stopping by, Kay! I completely agree!!

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  13. My question. Should parenting be all sunshine and roses? Is there anything in life that's all sunshine and roses? If it were, what would we have to work for - really?

    Yes, I agree that people go into parenting being very unrealistic and naive, but even so, they grow into it. Personally, I just let them grow into it just as I have.

    Thanks for this lovely post, and for linking up with us at the blog challenge.

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    1. Lisa, I agree - nothing is ever really sunshine and roses. But I was helped so much by moms that told me how it really was before I had my son. If all we see is the perfect moments before we become moms, it's a rough transition because it's definitely not perfect! I'm so thankful for the moms who went before me and shined light on the tough moments so I didn't feel so alone.

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  14. Oh my gosh, in the first few months of my daugher's life, dealing with colic, food intolerances that meant I couldn't eat anything in order to breastfeed her, and a REALLY hard time getting her on a good sleep pattern made me the bearer of bad news to so many new and expecting moms! Hopefully they had it way easier and just thought I was a bit crazy! She's now 18 months old and after the first three months of hard, hard times I've been able to find something each day to focus on that was just awesome. Thanks for being so honest, it's nice to hear others went through similar experiences!

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  15. Life with children definitely has its challenges, but there are so many more sweet moments than those where I feel like pulling my hair out.

    Would not give it up for the world.

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  16. Sounds like an eventful day I am glad it ended well. Being the mom of 4 I know how crazy it can be.

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  17. I read a book recently called Wonder Women by Debora L. Spar. She mentioned that she hated the book What to Expect When You Are Expecting because it doesn't talk about the pain of childbirth. I'm not a mom, but I think we have to support each other and talk about our challenges. In the end Spar says we don't have to be perfect. If all we can manage is store bought cupcakes when it is our kids turn to bring in a treat so be it. And in stressing about those kind of things we miss out on the moments. Even as a non-mom I can see how fast they grow up.

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  18. Motherhood is the hardest job you will ever love. Nothing else requires quite so much of us. I think most of us have an ideal dream of what it will be like before we actually become mommies. We will never truly understand until we actually become mothers. Sounds like you all had a beautiful day!

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  19. I think sometimes the simple days give us the most joy with our children. Having 5 kids from teenagers on down, I've learned that every age and stage has those times when you really just want to throw your hands up. It's those sunshine and roses moments of each stage that make being a mom so rewarding, though.

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  20. A beautiful post! I had a really hard time with my daughter in the first few months and we've just recently established a good sleeping pattern although getting her to bed is sometimes a nightmare. But at times when her daddy takes her out for a walk and I'm alone at home I miss her constant running around and talking and asking questions. Motherhood can only be experienced but it really helps to read that there are a lot of other moms just like you.

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  21. What a sweet and wonderful post!! And you're right, life and parenting isn't easy, but it sure is worth it!

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