I'm not a medical professional. If you are concerned about your health, please speak with your primary care physician. These are just tips in hopes to keep your family as healthy as possible.
Today we're going to talk about the few things that Jarrod and I do to have a healthy marriage. I saved this one for last because it's the hardest to write. Jarrod and I do not have a perfect marriage. In fact, we are in a very difficult season right now and I feel completely unqualified to write a post about a healthy marriage. However, there are things we've learned that have helped us maintain the most healthy marriage possible.
The biggest thing that we do to invest in our marriage is prayer. We pray together and for each other everyday. We just started a new habit of praying together before we leave the house in the morning. It is a great way to start the day. We also pray before we eat and with Wesley when he goes to bed. It helps keep us focused and help ease tension or irritation.
The next most important element to maintaining a healthy marriage is seeing a professional. Let me first say that I'm a huge proponent for counseling. I've seen a counselor on and off since I was 15 years old - through my parent's divorce and other huge life-altering events. About a year ago when Jarrod took a new job and changed occupations, went back to school, and we moved, I chose to see a marriage counselor. He was someone that I had seen before we were married and I was excited have his help to make our marriage stronger. It took a little convincing to get Jarrod on board but with all of the transitions in our lives I knew that we needed help to make it through. Our counselor is a Christian pastor and a licensed therapist. He's been in practice for more than 30 years. His area of expertise is marriage, but he understands and provides helpful insight on all areas of our life. We have gotten a lot of great ideas from him and enjoy our afternoon dates after spending time in his office.
One such idea is Sunday evening meetings. Each Sunday evening after Wesley goes to bed we sit at the kitchen table with our calendars, budget, and menus. We look at our budget for the month and see how we are tracking. Usually this is just a matter of checking in on everything, making sure nothing has come up, and ensuring that we are still under budget. Sometimes with our jobs we events that come up fairly last minute. We use these meetings to make sure that we have everything covered. We make sure that all of the moving parts of our life are covered. We also go over the menu. Sometimes we've already menu planned for the month and sometimes we use this meeting to menu plan for the week. We will assess what we have, what we need, and who is going to make it. This meeting rarely takes more than 15-20 minutes but saves us a lot of headaches!
Our marriage is in a constant state of work. It's worth it, but it's hard!
What do you do to keep your marriage healthy?